So most of you have probably heard me mention that I'm a speech coach. (I'm kind of proud of it, of my team.) Well, there is a lot of critiquing with speech. I critique my kids everyday in practice, plus at the meets I write a critique for every kid I judge. Each kid participates in three rounds, so they get three critique sheets back from every meet. More if there are final rounds. And I write six to eight critiques each round.
We all know critiques are subjective. We all know what one person doesn't like, or doesn't quite get, someone else will think is awesome. It's important to really consider every critique you get, but it's okay to disagree with them, too.
But that's not what I want to talk about today.
The thing with critiques is that we critique different people differently. (Usually without thinking too much about it.) When I have new kids on my team I focus on the basics. Slow down, look up more. SLOW DOWN! ;) Because if I was as hard on them as I am on the older kids I would scare them, or make them feel bad, and they'd probably quit.
The better these kids get the pickier I can be. I've made kids stop and say the same line back to me in practice over and over again before. But the kids are cool with that. They like it, actually, because they know that's what it takes to get better, and they like perfecting their piece.
This transition from not being picky to being crazy picky happens gradually. Usually.
Sometimes I get a kid who gets good too fast. :) Then I need to stop and let them know, "Hey, I'm not being so hard on you because you stink. It's because you are awesome and I think you can handle it."
This is true when I give critiques on writing, too. The better the writing, the more nit-picky I am. But it occurs to me that sometimes when we critique others writing, we don't know where they are in their journey.
So this is me telling you, the next time you get a critique where you feel they have torn you apart, it's probably not because you stink. It's because you are good. It's because they see the potential for just how awesome your ms can be. It's because they think you can handle it. Because you rock. :)
Have a great weekend everyone!